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Learn when and how to ask R U OK?

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This R U OK? Day on Thursday 9 September, remember to check in on those around you.

Now more than ever, it is important to go beyond just asking the question. This year’s theme is – Are they really OK? Ask them today. You can make a difference to the lives of friends and family who may be struggling by having regular, meaningful conversations about life up’s and down’s.

You don’t have to be an expert to show you care. By knowing what to say, you can help someone feel supported and access the right help before a crisis occurs.

Unsure of how to start the conversation? Follow R U OK’s four steps:

  1. Ask R U Ok?
    • Pick the right time to start the conversation and make sure you are ready for this conversation too
    • Mention specific things that have made you concerned for them, like “You seem less chatty than usual. How are you going?”
  2. Listen with an open mind
    • Take what they have to say seriously and don’t interrupt or rush the conversation.
    • Encourage them to explain: “How are you feeling about that” or “How long have you felt that way?”
    • Show that you’re listening by repeating back what you’ve heard (in your own words) and ask if you understood them properly.
  3. Encourage Action
    • Assist them to think of next steps they could take to help them manage their situation.
    • If they’ve been down for more than 2 weeks encourage them to see a health professional.
    • Be positive about the role of professionals in getting through tough times.
  4. Check in
    • Schedule a reminder to check in a couple of weeks. If they’re really struggling, check in with them sooner.
    • Stay in touch and be there for them. Genuine care and concern can make a real difference!

Join the R U OK? Day webinar to learn more. You can also find more conversation tips on the R U OK website.

R U OK? Day Webinar

Date: Thursday 9 September

Time: 10:30am – 11:30am AWST

Location: Online

If somebody’s not OK, there is support available to help.